not so secretly addicted

to joining dating sites.
much of what i see is not
what i want and apparently
vice versa. everyone, including
men my age whom i've dated
is now telling me to date younger.
yah right. how much younger?
see, if they're in their twenties
they're cougar hunters, i don't
believe i'll find many more
like the x2ybf, who even today
agrees with me, we coulda been if...
and even then once is enough to prove
what i knew anyway
so under say 32
they just want some instruction
or bragging rights. to the first
i'd say read a book, find the clit,
to the second i say look, it's no
big deal to bag a cougar in heat
we're the ones who should have
bragging rights. and we do. oh yah.
actually, i don't make a very good
cougar. i want to be attracted
to his mind as well as his looks.
what a joke, right, cuz cougars
just go for the meat. and i get all
squeamish goin after the younguns cuz
well, i know how i feel about that.
so, i just tease them. now, the thirty to young
forty somethings are either ready to settle
down and begin a family OR are endebted
to the ones that they are no longer members of.
so, that leaves men my age. who are recovering from
a)drugs
b)alcohol
c)the beatings their ex's gave them.

nice choice, ay fellow tween divorcees?

unfortunately for me i've never had a spark
for older men. except my first. but that
doesn't count cuz today he'd be listed as a predator.
so the addiction continues. it's kind of interesting
to watch the profiles run down the page, esp on yahoo
where people use what i'm assuming are their actual first
names. i however did not. use my first name. but the amounts
of daves and bills and mikes is astounding. i'm sure i'd
find the same on women's profiles but i'm not looking.
i can get it from context. another thing about
the dating sites is how everyone's wanting long term
how ninety percent are actively LOOKING for long term
but no one wants to throw frogs against the wall
they all want to throw the nightengales. and there are
so many good men, mr rights,mr standups, mr i could be the one
mr looking for love, mr romantic,mr honest looking
for honest but when you try to be
honest with them, say look, i'm sure you're a good man
but i'm just not into wearing thigh high boots
on the back of your harley while we tailgate
to a(insert sport of the season)game, nor do i want
to clean your fish, wash your truck or start your fire.
and yes, i prefer the book to the movie in most cases.

this makes me elitist. so be it. if there's a pic
of a baseball cap, i'm moving on, if there's a no smoker
sign i'm moving on, if they're baptist i am definitely
movin on, and sometimes catholic as well, if they're
lookin for a best friend forever
i'm moving on. i think your lover should be
your lover and your best friend is who you talk about your lover with.
i don't want to endure your farts or watch you watching
her tits. that's what best friends are for. hmmm
maybe this should go on my next free to join profile.

so a review of the dating sites would be in order
but i am not a payer. so to review paysites would be unfair.
anyway, they may be dinosaurs soon, for everyone but the elite
or the hooker/hookup sites. but i can do the free ones.

1)plenty of fish. largest but the IM sucks
don't like the add to favorites feature because
there's no standard of measure. i've seen people say
they add to show interest while the added wonders
wtf, why don't you just write me a fuckin email.
ok, THIS added one thinks that. and a lot of others
apparently do too. i've read it in both men and women's
profiles. the forums are interesting in the way
message boards always are, with flame wars erupting
and the whole gamut of bad advice not taken run.
you meet all twelve people in the world there
and you can lurk at will. one feature i'd like added
is send a flirt, since that adding to favorite thing
also shows when you, the added, were last online.
i say it's none of mr playing favorites business.
also sorts by city or radius which is something the pay
sites oughta look into. gotta say a bit about
how some people say they've been botted on there.
fulla tapeworms. but i have vista
so no worries yet. i'm sure
the time will come though.
one last thing, after ten it's a definite meat market.
no one believes you want to chat about the bone density
of the average paupau new guinean. go figure.


2( justsayhi. formerly mingle2 this began as a blog
project by a young hottie named matt. i noticed when
it was in its infancy the quality of men on the site
was a bit more refined. at least in my eyes. there were
more artists or wanna be artists per capita than myspace.
more thinkers it seemed. but they merged with this other
place so now it's just another corner bar. with the attendant
bikers and baseball hat wearers. a younger crowd seems
to gather but all ages are represnented and getting larger.
with the same people you'll see on pof, btw. can i get
another acronym? IM sux. mainly because the notification
is up at the top of the page and is silent so you're
likely to miss it if you're deep into a profile, or really
anywhere below the banner ads that line the top.
it has a myspace type of network, where your friends
are posted right alongside your own pix so that your potential
future dates can see the competition. the forums need
more participation , but time will help,
and they have a place to post creative writing.
or, ummmm, and i use the term loosely, poetry.
it makes me realize why i like to stay at the ghost.
all in all this one could some tweaking, like
try doing pof algorithm for who's online in MY city.
i dn't really want to meet someone from casablanca
for a date. tho i suppose if i wanted to do some
couch exchanges that feature is nice to have.


3( smooch
well, it's mainly filled right now with aussies.
i think. at least that's the idea i got from
my one chat session. maybe it was the time of day.
the im is not existent, it's more like a private
message board. but the font color change is pretty unique.
also has a shitty search engine.

4I

okcupid

joined it once with 2ybf,now he hangs there
so i don't drop in. free im tho, just like
pof, and according to the ex, just as sucky.
iow, think young and budding. do you really
want to go there>


anyway, thank god i'm tired at last.
it's four am.
nite gracie