object ti fi cation

"to treat someone as an an object is to behave with them as an undertaker".

emil cioran


just got my latest brand new copy of the trouble with being born i used to have 2 others. one, i gave away in a contest, the other my son lost at school. to this day i think a teacher found it and confiscated it. i had numbers written in that book. phrases underlined, pages turned down.

now it's like i don't even need to read it again, but i want to have it. it's a necklace i pull from that seventies collection and put on when i'm not going anywhere, but think i might like to.



exercises in objectification. why would anyone need that? maybe to create distance, so that opinion or its lack can not wound one?




i used to read most profiles with an eye towards the individual. but so many of them wear the standard memes. i don't think the people writing them really want their individualism to stand out. and how bout those that post only a pic and think that's enough to find ...well, whatever it is they're looking for.

so now i find myself scanning just pictures first. i guess that's the idea behind quick match. a li'l view of the person, superficial, type ing. i think i'm disassociating from the entire process because the rejection rate is awfully high. the cliche of hay and stacks. some bit of metal promised within, possibly magnetised to my frequency. the frogs mulitply and the princesses line up like clones.

romance as the object dies in utero. a friend with benefits is beginning to sound ideal.